Kitten left home when she was 18 after a fight with her family over a boyfriend, and she wasn't welcome back, not even after the relationship ended. “They were talking shit about it, saying it wasn't a good thing to do.” But Kitten saw it differently; she saw a way out.She wound up in a program for homeless youth and lived in a shelter. “I wondered how would my life be different if rather than leave a relationship with nothing, I left with more than I came into it with.” She signed up with Seeking Arrangement before she even left the shelter. She wants to become a choreographer, and the money has been really helpful.Prada sunglasses, Jimmy Choos, Armani clothing, her Honda Civic... Kitten was teaching dance to kids for a while, and then one of the parents caught wind of what she did on the side, and suddenly there was no room for Kitten in the next season's teaching roster.The woman who had protested against her, according to Kitten, had escaped her abusive husband by secretly setting aside extra money until she could afford to leave him.But technology has affected this mini-economy twofold: First, as with any Etsy shop, anyone with a good to sell can now easily intersect with someone who wants this good; and second, it has created a culture of righteous entitlement, in which a fringe thing feels mainstream when you find enough people who participate in it.
It was Kitten, 23, lip liner slightly darker than her lipstick, lips that I sort of wanted to touch, who made a woman in her forties stare so angrily that her husband forced her to change seats so that her back was to Kitten.And they really don't have time to woo a woman or to like, you know, answer your phone calls.”Kitten doesn't like to think of it as getting paid for sex—she thinks of the sex as just something that happens naturally when two people spend time together.And she thinks of the money as a contribution a real boyfriend would make, just more.“And I was like, ‘You're not doing anything different than I'm doing, except you're stealing.’ ” Which, sure, those two things seem exactly the same.A thing people like to do in the sugar realm, when they're being defensive, is they like to tell you how they're doing just another version of what you're doing. We're also both journalists, me and my husband, which is to say that we've been bringing each other down financially and “beneficially” since the day we met.Most of the girls there weren't pretty like her, and they'd make fun of her, saying, “What are you doing here, princess? Kitten says that it isn't always about sex: There were some nebbishy men (and some women; she's sugar-dated both) who just wanted companionship.